Last year, one of my resolutions was to be a better listener. I have a very short attention span. I cannot multi-task to save my life!! I think it’s because I notice everything around me, kind of all at once. I remember what everyone I know was wearing the day I met them, I notice the way a room smells, I notice if there is music in the room and sometimes end up singing along in my head. So I have to focus completely on the sound of the person’s voice and what they are feeling. If i’m on the phone, I have to turn the tv or radio completely off and not page through magazines or do laundry while we talk.
This year,I want to try to tell people how much they mean to me. I am not a mushy person. I don’t cry at movies or at weddings. I get uncomfortable talking about my feelings. Of course I say “I love you” to a few select people, but I also usually am more comfortable with a sarcastic comment or joke. When my husband and I first started dating, he knew that if I said ” I hate you” it meant ” I really really love you.” I said it in a nice tone of voice with a big smile on my face. We kind of pick on each other. Actually, I pick on everyone I like.
I also want to work on my general attitude. I tend to see the negative aspect of things and sometimes am in a very dark place in my head. Maybe if i focus on the positive aspect,I won’t always be saying ” Why does this kind of thing always happen to me?” I will try more things if I’m not sure that I will fail anyway so why bother. One of my favorite people in the whole world is the most positive, happy person I have ever met. She calls this “polyanna-ing”. Like the movie. This little girl gets crutches as a gift, she is happy because she doesn’t need to use them. I should try to find the bright side when things don’t go my way.
I hope that next year I will be a little bit better.
What are your resolutions?